The final truth we learn about the pit of betrayal from the account of Joseph is that the healing of the pain caused by betrayal often takes years to heal completely. We already saw that often the pain resulting from being betrayed gets worse before it gets better and that pain does not go away overnight. Neither does it go away in a week, or in a month, or in week, or even in a year. The truth is that it usually takes many years.
Look at Joseph. From his birth to the age of seventeen he was the favored son of his beloved father, Jacob. At age seventeen he was brutally betrayed by his brothers and forced into the land of Egypt where all the way until the age of thirty he found himself living as a slave and as a prisoner. Imagine – thirteen long years of daily living the pain of betrayal.
But at the age of thirty he is finally promoted to the palace in Egypt where he will live out his life as the second most powerful man in Egypt. He will receive a wife; he will receive sons; and ultimately he will receive the opportunity to forgive his brothers and to be joyously reunited with his father. It took many years, but the healing did come.
It may not happen quickly but it does happen. There does come a point where God removes the sting from the memory. Be patient! Healing does come!